Bonding For Birth Parents

It’s not uncommon for a birth mother to select openness with the adoptive family as part of her adoption plan. This can be in the form of sharing photos, email updates, and sometimes even in-person visits. But even though open adoption is viewed for the most part in society as a positive relationship between the birth parent and the adoptive family and child, it can still be difficult to navigate.

Oftentimes, a birth mother may struggle with finding ways to bond with her child after placement.

When it comes to connecting with her birth child, many birth mothers struggle with:

  1. Feeling unsure about the child’s likes or dislikes
  2. Doubting her ability to form a relationship with her child after placement
  3. Fear that that she will do something wrong and won’t be able to see the adoptive family again
  4. Fear of experiencing loss again
  5. Not wanting to overstep boundaries

Stephanie & Eric

Stephanie and Eric are waiting to welcome a child into their heart and home through open adoption. Learn more about them!

Hello,

We both want to thank you for giving us this chance to expand our family. Eric and I are both teachers in the area. We dated for 5 years and got married in 2014. Our plan was be in love, get married, and have a big family. Our plan started to come to fruition when we became pregnant with Cameron. Cameron was born in 2015. After the birth I began to have health symptoms relating to pregnancy. Low and behold the doctor recommends that pregnancy isn’t a safe option for us, but that hasn’t stopped Eric and I and our dreams of a bigger family. Cameron is a healthy 2 year old, who enjoys being mischievous. Cameron has opportunities to interact with other children his age through park district programs and preschool. The saying it takes a village to raise a kid is true and dear to Eric and I. Our parents play a huge role in Cameron’s life. Both our parents watch Cameron throughout the weekdays. We want all of our children to feel safe, emotionally supported and loved. Thank you for giving us the chance to expand our family and to give our love and support to another child.

-Eric and Stephanie

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John & Megan

John and Megan are waiting to welcome a child into their heart and home through open adoption. Learn more about them!

Hi! It’s nice to meet you!

We appreciate that you are taking the time to get a glimpse of our family through this book. We believe that family is about caring for and supporting one another. We live that through our daily interactions with one another and through our faith. While we have been blessed in our lives up to this point, we still have something missing – a new child to love and hold, a sibling to strengthen the bond of our children and a new little person to help grow into the best big person that they can be. And that’s what we’re all about.

Although we don’t yet know you, you’re often on our minds! We can’t imagine the emotions you are feeling right now, but we hope that you find moments of peace in your decision. We know that it is made with love and that you are looking for the best family fit to give your child opportunities… please know this choice you are making says something about the kind of person you are. We can’t thank you enough for your ability to be so selfless!

Thank you for taking the time to meet our family!

Megan and John

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Journey of Hope Adoptive Family Camp

This summer, Holt-Sunny Ridge will host the second annual Journey of Hope summer camp for adoptees and their families!

This three-day camp is designed around the Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI)® parenting curriculum for domestic and international adoptees and their families. Even years after their adoption, some children may struggle with behavior regulation, attachment and social skills. This camp will equip families with tools and strategies they can use to help their child learn self-regulation skills and deepen family attachment. Parents will also receive specialized TBRI training. Other activities include fun sensory games, art and equine therapy!

Journey of Hope family camp is a therapeutic day camp. Each child is assigned an adult buddy to be with them and teach them coping skills throughout the day.  Parents will be learning the full TBRI® parenting intervention that is approximately 20 hours of education. Parents and children will be participating in group EAGALA equine therapy each day of the camp as well with certified EAGALA therapists and equine specialists. Lunch, snacks and drinks are provided to the families all three days.

When: Friday, June 22 – Sunday, June 24, 2018 | 9:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.
Where: Hope Reins Equine Camp in Hampshire, IL
Cost: $750 per family or $1,000 for a family with more than one child

Details:

  • Families must be available to attend all three days of the family camp. If married, both parents need to attend all three days.
  • If a family has two adopted children who meet the criteria they may apply individually for each child to attend, although we cannot guarantee that both children will be accepted. Families must make other childcare arrangements for any sibling who does not meet this criteria.
  • Children must have been in your home for at least one year and be between the ages of 7 and 11 or have completed first grade by the time camp begins.
  • Lodging, breakfast and dinner are not included in the camp price nor arranged by Holt-Sunny Ridge.

Only ten spots are available and applications are due by April 6, 2018. So apply now! 

Download application here to apply!

For more information, contact Pam Shepard at pams@holtsunnyridge.org

Kevin & Lynnea

Kevin and Lynnea are waiting to welcome a child into their heart and home through open adoption. Learn more about them!

Nice to meet you,

Thank you for taking the time to consider us. We understand that a decision like this is not easily made, and we would be forever grateful if we are chosen for this gift. We promise to provide love, support, laughter, and guidance to this precious life. Our journey to become parents began in 2011. After IVF was unsuccessful, we decided it was time to explore the wonderful opportunities that being adoptive parents could provide. We invite you to take a moment to view our story.

Love,
Kevin & Lynnea

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Welcome Home! Winter 2018

Congratulations to these newest Holt-Sunny Ridge families! 

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Empowering Mothers to Parent

Nine women are currently enrolled in our Empowering Women, Strengthening Families program, and we are so proud of the amazing progress they are making!

In October, we launched a brand new project that had been a dream of ours for years: to empower mothers in Chicago, who are considering adoption solely for lack of resources, to independently care for their children.

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