It’s not uncommon for a birth mother to select openness with the adoptive family as part of her adoption plan. This can be in the form of sharing photos, email updates, and sometimes even in-person visits. But even though open adoption is viewed for the most part in society as a positive relationship between the birth parent and the adoptive family and child, it can still be difficult to navigate.
Oftentimes, a birth mother may struggle with finding ways to bond with her child after placement.
When it comes to connecting with her birth child, many birth mothers struggle with:
- Feeling unsure about the child’s likes or dislikes
- Doubting her ability to form a relationship with her child after placement
- Fear that that she will do something wrong and won’t be able to see the adoptive family again
- Fear of experiencing loss again
- Not wanting to overstep boundaries