On Birth Mother’s Day, here are some of our messages to birth mothers here in Chicago and around the world:
You are loved!
Your wellbeing is in the hearts and minds of many. “We do no great things, only small things with great love.” -Mother Teresa
Happy Birth Mother’s Day. The courage you have to make a very difficult decision is admirable.
You are amazing! 🙂
Your heart and courage are truly an inspiration! ❤
As a foster mother myself, I know that a mother’s love is expressed in many different forms, and all are beautiful! But today I honor the mothers who gave their children the first experience of love in their life. What an incredible gift that stays with children their whole lives.
Dear Birth Mothers, As an adoptee, I want to thank you for all the sacrifices you gave to give me (us) a better life. You will always have a special place in our hearts. xoxo This year this celebration [Birth Mother’s Day] is on my birthday and it brings extra importance on this day. Thank you for your love and care. xoxo
You will be a part of our family forever.
Because of your bravery, our family is complete. Thank you for bringing our daughter into our world and our lives.
Fifteen years after placing her son for adoption, Gina Ledsma got in contact with Holt earlier this year. When we asked her if she was open to sharing her story, her response was an enthusiastic “yes.” While the environment and circumstances are different from country to country and individual to individual, Gina’s domestic U.S. adoption story is one that may resonate with any birth mother. And understanding stories like hers is important for everyone who is touched by adoption.
Gina will never forget the three hard, precious days she had with her son.
“I just counted all the toes and fingers,” she says, remembering those days in a hospital bed in Eugene, Oregon. “I looked at every little piece and part — and said my goodbyes.”
It’s not uncommon for a birth mother to select openness with the adoptive family as part of her adoption plan. This can be in the form of sharing photos, email updates, and sometimes even in-person visits. But even though open adoption is viewed for the most part in society as a positive relationship between the birth parent and the adoptive family and child, it can still be difficult to navigate.
Oftentimes, a birth mother may struggle with finding ways to bond with her child after placement.
When it comes to connecting with her birth child, many birth mothers struggle with:
Feeling unsure about the child’s likes or dislikes
Doubting her ability to form a relationship with her child after placement
Fear that that she will do something wrong and won’t be able to see the adoptive family again
Domestic open adoption brings birth parents, adoptive parents and their children together as a unique and beautiful family. This photo shows the significant moment of Killian’s birth mother and adoptive parents meeting for the first time — the beginning of a lifelong relationship centered around the love they all have for their son.
I’m Daniel, an electrical engineer, and I’m Olga, a second grade dual-language teacher with a master’s degree in reading. We also have two small dogs named Choco and Chespi. It’s nice to meet you. We invite you to flip through these pages and get a glimpse into our lives. You will find that we love traveling and are close to our families. We also love going to the Cubs games. I, Dan, personally enjoy cooking and home improvement projects. My favorite is making pizza from scratch, which I learned from my dad. I, Olga, enjoy running and kickboxing. We both love reading books, especially on the beach. We are very excited at the possibility of welcoming your baby into our loving family. There are no words that we can write here to express how truly grateful we are for your sacrifice. All we can say is thank you, and hope you can take comfort in knowing your child will be raised in a loving and stable home.
For 20 years, the Stark family has served faithfully as Holt-Sunny Ridge foster parents — caring for children as they wait to be united with their adoptive families. Nancy Crouch, Holt-Sunny Ridge’s director of domestic adoption and birth parent services, shares about the amazing, meaningful impact the Stark have made over the years.
I never really knew the true meaning of guardian angels until I met Paul and Cindy Stark, licensed temporary foster parents for Holt-Sunny Ridge. For over 20 years, the Stark family has been providing a loving and caring home to children in need. The dream of being foster and adoptive parents all started when Cindy was a student at the University of Notre Dame and working part-time for the assistant dean of marketing, Joanne, who would often talk to Cindy about her passion for adoption. Joanne adopted two young boys of a different race who were in need of a family, which really touched Cindy’s heart. The love that she observed in Joanne’s family was truly amazing and life-changing for Cindy. It did not matter what differences the family had with race, education or need. They were family.